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Most common worry about starting BJJ training

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One common, probably the most common, worry I get from people who are trying out their first class or who are thinking about trying their first class, is that they don’t want to “get in the way.” These people are fully aware of how green they are and don’t want to impede someone else’s progress. Maybe this is you? Maybe you want to attend a BJJ class but you feel too intimidated. You want to train but you’re worried that you’re just too new and that you’ll slow down the class or bother people. I’ll tell you what I tell people that come into the gym with these same worries.

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We were all new at some point

First off, don’t worry so much. We were all new at some point. We all sucked, it’s just how it is. No one starts off as an expert. If they did, I wouldn’t have a job. Some people have a natural disposition towards BJJ and athletics while others don’t, this is true, but EVERYONE was awkward and untrained at some point. You can use me as an example. I had wrestled in high school and had some grappling experience but I was still terrible when I first started Brazilian Jiu-jitsu. Watching me perform a hip escape/ shrimp was pretty comical. If during my initial training, a higher belt had not taken the time to help me I would not be where I am today. So when I see newcomers I don’t cringe in irritation. Instead I get excited because it’s a chance for me to pay it forward to someone else. It’s my chance to help someone out just like others helped me in the beginning. This is also the way I encourage my trained students to view the opportunity. Just as someone at some point took a little time to help them out along the way; this is their chance to help someone out.

 

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Pairing up with beginners can be a good thing for training

Let me also explain an added benefit that a skilled practitioner gains from helping out a newbie. This will help combat the feeling of you destroying their training for the day because you need a little extra assistance. This benefit I believe is that it helps them dissect and better understand the techniques. Being able to mimic someone else’s movements is far easier than being able to explain what you’re doing, break it down and make it consumable for others. Ask any blue or purple belt who’s been asked to teach a couple techniques for a beginner class. So maybe you as the newcomer view your lack of experience as an impediment to a higher ranking student’s progress. In reality though, it’s a chance for them to understand the techniques they are using even better, improving their understanding of BJJ.

 

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Message to the higher belts

If you are reading this post and you are a higher belt who shies away from helping the new guys, maybe you should reconsider. Yes I know that sometimes you’re in the gym to drill hard and kill it. Perhaps a competition is right around the corner and you need those rough rolls to get ready. I understand that completely. But don’t forget that at some point you were a new person who felt awkward and out of place and were assisted by someone who was better than you. Someone took a moment from their training to give you advice or helpful critiques. They’re part of the reason why you’ve come to reach the point that you find yourself at now. Help the new guys on their journey.

 

 

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Message to the new guys

If you’re reading this and you are someone who is either very new to BJJ or maybe you have not attended a class and you’re worried about dragging everyone else down. Please erase these worries from your thinking as they are irrational and unnecessary. I know it can be uncomfortable starting something new but remember no one starts off as a black belt. You might even be a little more awkward or less athletic than the average joe, but believe me, some of my best students now, were the absolute WORST when they first began their training. But they kept training and have since amazed me. The important thing to remember is that getting better at BJJ is not a secret, nor is it determined by how good you are in the beginning. Simply put, it’s hard work over a long duration of time. So, just come in the gym and train. I promise you’ll be just fine and you’ll more than likely be pleasantly surprised at how welcoming and willing many of the advanced students are to helping beginners.

 

As always, thanks for reading!

Chewy

Stuff my White Belts ask me: “What kind of gi should I buy?”

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Common question from a new white belt: “Chewy, what kind of gi should I buy?”

My answer: Early on I think the type of gi you wear matters very little. As a newcomer to BJJ you won’t be able to detect the small differences that exist between the different kimonos out there. You may notice a difference if you get a heavier gi opposed to a lighter one, but that’s about it.

My advice is to find a gi that you find visually appealing, is within your budget and is from a reputable source. Other than that, don’t pay too much attention to the extras.

Although single, summer, pearl weaves and any gi label “light” are going to be a little lighter and cooler, that doesn’t always mean better. I personally, prefer a heavier gi. Don’t be afraid to test it out and see which type you like best.

Pay attention to the sizing chart of that particular company as many gi companies have different sizing for their kimonos.

Before you buy, do a search on youtube or google for a review of the particular gi you intend to purchase and see what you can find. These reviews can be helpful about learning how much the gi shrinks up, fades, fits, etc.

In regards to colors, I personally feel that you should wear whichever gi color you like, but check with your gym. Some academies have rules against colors. Sometimes they even have stigmas around white belts wearing colors like black gis. This isn’t common but its something to keep in mind. In addition, if you plan to compete in IBJJF tournaments, you will be required to wear certain gi colors.

Fun Fact: Many gis are made in the same factories overseas and in some cases, Kimono companies simply copy another competitor’s design and rehash it as something for themselves. So don’t get too worked up about the special features on your new gi. Focus on finding something that you will be pumped about wearing when you step on the mat.

If you’re new to BJJ and had this question, I hope this blog helped you. If you still have any questions, consult your instructor or send me an email and I’d be happy to assist. 🙂

As always,

Thanks for reading!

—Chewy

Learning to be a better instructor by being a beginner

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Being a beginner at something new can be pretty terrifying. I think many instructors and experienced BJJ players forget this. Many people in teaching positions of all sorts sometimes forget this. Nothing makes you feel quite as out of place as being in a room with people who “seem” to know what they are doing. Meanwhile you’re struggling to grasp the most basic movements or concept. The problem is that many experts are so disconnected with how it felt to be new on the mats that they cannot empathize with new comers.

I write this post because one thing that  really gets under my skin is a teacher who gets short with a new person because they don’t pick something up right off the bat. I’ve seen it happen plenty of times in situations over the years. I look at it like this. . . Here you have an excited man or woman who is so pumped up about training. They’ve done their research on the sport and can’t wait to learn the art. Then once they step on the mat, that enthusiasm is blasted by an assault of negativity by their instructor. Small expressions like sighs of disdain or word usage like “no, you’re doing it wrong” go a long way in derailing the positive momentum this prospective student walked in with.  This is unfortunate and robs the would-be practitioner of the amazing benefits of BJJ because of a poor instructor. Why on earth would you treat a person this way??? New or old, there is no excuse for this if you’re an instructor. Remember being a good instructor is not about the medals and accolades you’ve won, it’s about your ability to convey a message or ability to your students.

 

A light bulb went off

There was an experience that I had which made that cartoon light bulb to flicker on above my head. I went salsa dancing with my girlfriend (just dating at the time). Now, she had been dancing for months and months by this time and knew what she was doing. I on the other hand . . . well. . . this was my first time and I was never the most adventurous person on the dance floor to begin with. Honestly I was nervous about the whole situation. EVERYTHING! I mean I was even searching for a guide on the correct attire to wear when Salsa dancing! It’s miraculous that I even made it there for the class, but I was fueled by attraction to this new beautiful young woman I met so I threw my nervousness aside.

When I arrived at the dance club and started moving around in the class, I did fine. I picked up the beginner moves rather easily and I have some rhythm so I wasn’t a lost cause. The eye opening moment occurred when we were switching partners during the class. There ended up being an uneven number of men and women for the class and during one of the switches I was left partner-less. There I was . . . moving my body in an awkward fashion to the latin music. I kept trying to do the movements we were practicing as if I still had a partner. I felt like I was trying to dance with some imaginary woman who was not too thrilled to be my partner. It’s hard to express how strange and out of place I felt.  I must have given off some sort of warning signal like the red light that goes off in a submarine. Because after 20 seconds or so my girlfriend came rushing over to save. . . I mean dance with me. She calmly pushed aside my imaginary partner and we began dancing together.  I was back into the safe harbor of the known and the proverbial red alarm ceased. 

Now during that 20 second period of partner-less dancing is when the light bulb went off. I thought to myself, “this is how new people must feel when they come to BJJ class for the first time”. Awkward, nervous, unsure of what exactly they are doing, etc. Not that I was ever short with people when I taught but I realized how important it is to make a new student feel at ease and how important it is to be as understanding as possible. The experienced also caused me to get very protective over new comers who must feel the same way I felt when I was dancing with my imaginary woman during my salsa lesson.

I started quizzing some of my students about how they felt when they came to their first lesson. Many of them had similar feelings. Fear and anxiety but that it looked really fun and they wanted to learn. One of my students was so nervous in fact, that he couldn’t even walk through the doors of the gym for 6 months. He would drive by and want to stop in but was just too nervous to come in. He said once he came in he was so excited and everyone was so inviting and patient with him. Heck, I remember my first time on the mats and I was incredibly nervous as well.

So whether you’re an instructor or just a higher belt on the mats, help build a helpful and positive atmosphere in your gym. If you are on the mats and you see a fresh new face, try and help them feel comfortable. Remind them that it’s ok to mess things up at first, just as its ok for all of us to mess things up from time to time. Remember, experts in BJJ are simply beginners that never quit.

If you enjoyed reading this then please take these 5 things away from the post.

  • Being a good instructor is not about how many tournaments you’ve won.
  • Being the new guy/girl on the mat can be terribly awkward, do your best to curb that feeling by being genuine and inviting.
  • Introduce yourself to a new person and learn their name. The power of hearing someone call you by your name is powerful.
  • Be patient!
  • I’m not a good dancer.

Thanks for reading!

 

BJJ is for Everyone!

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Hey guys, this being my first post and all I wasn’t really sure where to take it. I decided to go ahead and post something for beginners in our sport that may be getting a bit discouraged. This post is inspired from the experiences I’ve had with different students and friends who I have met over the years, and who at one point or another in their BJJ journey thought that Brazilian Jiu-jitsu was just not for them. I hope this proves useful to anyone who is at a rough patch in their BJJ and that it may provide a little encouragement to keep going . . . because believe me BJJ is for EVERYONE!

Having trained in Brazilian Jiu-jitsu since 2003 I have had the pleasure to train and interact with hundreds of people. With that said, I can say with full confidence that anyone can be proficient at Brazilian Jiu-jitsu and I think this is one of the great things about the sport. You do not have to be the biggest, tallest, or most athletic guy out there to be a good BJJ player.  I will use my gym for example for much of this post. Currently we have members who come from every walk of life and it is amazing to see just how diverse a class can be from day to day. Kids, adults. . . men, women, children. . .construction workers, accountants, students, lawyers. . . huge guys, small guys. . .  you get the idea.  Being their instructor I have had the pleasure to guide these members along and watch them grow over the years and its really interesting to watch. Each person’s body type or athletic ability poses different advantages and obstacles. 

Some of my most accomplished students at first were not your ideal candidates for any sort of athletic endeavors. Here are a few examples. . .

* One of my students started off at 270lbs and after a year and a half was a blue belt who had won numerous competitions and had his first MMA fight at 170lbs. Along with becoming a a great athlete he has changed his whole life around.

*The student at my gym who has competed more than any of us started off as a young  11 year old who didn’t have a muscle to his body. Now he is 17 years old, has won numerous IBJJF tournaments and is a fantastic blue belt who uses his lanky frame to his advantage.

*A female student who started with me in 2011 took third at the IBJJF Worlds in 2012. Not too shabby for under a year of training.

*Another one of my students started with his older brother. His older brother had wrestled in high school and in the beginning would routinely beat his younger sibling on the mat. Fast forward 4 years and the younger brother is able to dominate  his older brother  and is one of the best purple belts in the gym.

This is just to name a few. Even I cannot claim to be a whiz at jiu-jitsu right off the bat! When I first started I was not exactly destroying guys on the mat. I had wrestled in high school and could take down many of my peers in class, but I was helpless once it hit the mat. I would often consider it a successful training session if I was able to get a takedown and sit in guard without getting submitted.  BJJ didn’t click for me until about 5 months later. . . and 5 months seemed like an eternity! Once things clicked though, my skills grew exponentially and I’ve never looked back.  

 

The reason for this post is because it is easy to get discouraged when you first start training and maybe feel like it’s simply not for you.  You may feel like you are training and not getting anywhere, but I promise if you stick with it and endure the rough start that it only gets better. A saying used in all sorts of sports is “if it was easy, everyone would do it” and this is the truth!  Brazilian Jiu-jitsu is not easy. . . you may have to make sacrifices such as cleaning your diet and staying away from junk food or giving up leisure time that you might normally use for tv watching.  The payoff is well worth it because BJJ is an amazing sport and if you continue to train and remain mentally and physically focused things will eventually click.  You will form bonds with your gym mates and make lasting friendships, have a fun way to exercise and stay in shape, and have a sanctuary to relieve you of all the stresses of day to day life.  Heck, someday you may find yourself in the position of your trainers encouraging the new guys to stick with it and helping them achieve their goals.

Some great books that I would suggest reading that dive into the ideas of deliberate practice, talent vs hard work and the “ten thousand hour rule” are Talent is Overrated by Geoff Colvin and Outliers by Malcom Gladwell. Both are great reads and offer very helpful and motivating insights into the world of athletics as well as into aspects of careers and our daily lives.

I hope you this post is useful and feel free to post with your own experiences, thoughts, etc.

Thanks guys!

–Chewy

 

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